Another Angry Email

This and this pissed me off beyond belief. So I gave the author a piece of my mind.

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Good evening.

I was unfortunate enough to link to your poorly-informed opinion pieces on adoption and infertility. There was nothing remotely comical, "comicmom", about what you wrote (How was it that you concluded that you had a sense of humor, anyway?), which was basically: If you can not conceive and carry a pregnancy without medical assistance, you do not deserve to be a parent. And if you can't conceive but try to adopt, you are ripping a child out of the arms of its rightful mother.

That is complete and utter tripe, and your reference to "artificial families" is just sick and hateful. Do you get off on making such nasty judgments? You've got a typical right-wing blame-the-victim mentality... Not very original, I must say.

You say women just aren't taking the time to have sex or are looking for "instant baby" via IVF? You stupid, stupid person. Do you have any idea what couples go through before attempting IVF, which is almost always a last resort? Do you understand what is involved in an IVF cycle and what it's like give yourself daily injections, deal with the side effects, go in for constant monitoring and doctors appointments, have the egg retrieval and embryo transfer, then end up not getting pregnant? There's NOTHING instant about it. Do you understand that couples do IUI not because they can't be bothered having sex (as you said), but because of things like poor-quality cervical fluid (which kills sperm), sperm motility/count/morphology problems, and other medical problems?

I did nothing wrong to deserve infertility. I was diagnosed with endometriosis, and my husband and I have been trying to conceive for a year and a half. We started trying when I was 27, so your ridiculous, oversimplified generalization of the career woman who puts off babies til she's practically 50 doesn't work here (or hardly ever). We will pursue the assisted reproductive techniques that we and our doctors are comfortable with, and if we do not succeed, we will pursue adoption. Who named you God and granted you the right to judge us and call us an artificial family?

From one master's degree holder to another: Do the world a favor and use your education for the good of society instead of blaming people who just want to be parents, a process you were fortunate enough to take for granted.

I highly suggest you read the following thread at the Naked Ovary. Hopefully you'll learn something and have the courtesy to acknowledge how ignorant you've been. Take a look at just how tired and cliched your "arguments" are.

http://thenakedovary.typepad.com/the_naked_ovary/2005/10/
and_the_asshole.html

So until you've undergone surgery, endured the side effects of fertility drugs, and had to give yourself shots in the stomach, you should shut the hell up about infertility. And until you have travelled the long, heart-wrenching journey of adoption, you should shut up about that, too. Willfull ignorance is so very unattractive.

Most sincerely,
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P.S. You, in all your self-righteous ignorance (hint: not a good combination), are the LAST person who should be homeschooling. Any children you have are in serious need of outside influence. At least they could get a break from your vitriol. Try not to screw up your kids as badly as somebody screwed you up.